Hi Colin
Glad you have found our website. There is a lot of useful information and help available.
If it were not for Covid restrictions, we would be running our weekend residential workshops, which use the CBT approach as designed by psychologists. However as we cannot run those we are ruining one day virtual workshops using Zoom, and there is one this coming Saturday. If you look on the website at the menu item "Workshops" you will see how to book on to it. I really recommend you do so. We have been running workshops since 2003, over 100 so far, and they are successful.
The virtual workshops depends on having a laptop using Zoom, on which the workshop leader is effectively a visual buddy. Note that the buddy does NOT watch the other peeing, because that is not what happens in real life. The laptop s alway turned away; it is the presence of another person that is the trigger of anxiety.
The process of graduated desensitisation is effective, especially when managed by an experienced person, as the workshop leaders are. They have all had, or still have, paruresis themselves.
For that reason we do not allow this forum to be used to find a pee buddy. For obvious reasons two strangers hooking up to do virtual peeing is open to abuse. As a charity we have a reputation to protect; hence the ban.
So do get back with questions; feel free to tell your story; but above all get onto this Saturday's virtual workshop
cheers
Andrew
2 years 10 months ago