Hi Jon
Interesting.
The priority is to get you peeing first time, so as to remove the revisits and the intervening discomfort.
The first thing to realise is that for people who do not have a shy bladder, peeing is as uninteresting as blowing one’s nose. It is instantly forgettable; they do not remember going, and do not think about the next time. So though you can hear the occupant of the next door cubicle, they are unaware of you, because they have much more interesting things on their mind; work, worries, day dreams etc etc. The same things goes for the cleaners.
If you don’t like the feeling that they can hear you, pee on the porcelain. Once the flow is established, you can move into the water if you wish. But do that as your choice, not to fit in with other people.
As part of your toilet routine, consider relaxation breathing (see the website) and physical relaxation (clenching and unclenching). This should help you to relax, and the time taken also gives your subconscious time to relax.
A “survive the day” technique could be to use earphones and music on your mobile. Choose a track that cheers you up, that energises you.
Finally consider attending one of our workshops. A one day online workshop would probably suffice; or even a one to one online session.
Get back to us with your thoughts.
Cheers
Andrew
1 year 5 months ago