Hi Ryan
You have fixed in your mind that going outside is humiliating. Yet you have described the toilets as being rammed and unpleasant.
Could you consider the view of someone who does not have paruresis, but considers that going for a pee in those conditions is not for him. As a man comfortable with himself, he says: those are crap toilets, I am going somewhere better. And if questioned, he is matter of fact and unapologetic about it.
In addition, you can still go and have some time at the bar, but could you turn up a bit later than the others?
Have a think about it. It's your life and you can do what you want, not what you think others expect you to do.
I'm happy to chat on the phone if that would help.
BTW I suggest you change you profile name to maintain some anonymity. Ryan is enough, but a surname as well is too much. You can always set up a new profile, or not even have one at all. I can delete the posting if you like.
Get back to me
Andrew
2 years 9 months ago