I just wanted to say thanks for the information on this site. I never realised that there was a charity and support for people with SBS. To be honest I thought it was just me and it has destroyed my self confidence and self esteem most of my life. I can think of endless events, parties and social occasions I have have avoided or cut short seemingly disappearing without reason to find a 'safe' place to pee and could never explain to anyone why. Comment's like 'What happened to you last night?', eat away. How could I possibly explain that I am unable to pee? I often end up mumbling some excuse of feeling tired which makes me feel depressed, hopeless and even suicidal. It's like you have a really bad secret so embarrassing that no-one would understand. 'What do you mean you cant pee? If you're bursting you'll just go.' 'You're a man, you just stand up and pee anywhere'.
After a relationship breakup last year, I decided to go and get help for my self esteem and it clicked that shy bladder was a big reason and it's time to finally try and address it. I have lived with it for so long, that I sort of got used to it being part of me and living with the destructive avoidant behavior but it has been sabotaging my life.
I am interested in attending the next beginners workshop in Reading, but if there are any Pee Buddies in the Dorset area that would be interested in working together, let me know.
6 years 1 month ago