HI David. This shows that what you are trying to do is too challenging; so we need to find a lower challenge to desense to. I suggest you desense to being in a cubicle, standing, unzipped etc, but with no need to pee i.e. to get used to being in there, feet facing the wrong way. Stay in there for say a minute. Repeat the exercise time and again until the anxiety wears off (because no-one ever comments), and until it becomes boring.
Then you can move up a mini step; do as above, again with no need to pee, but take in a squeezy bottle with some water in. Use that to make a flow. The first step will be onto the porcelain i.e. quiet; when diseased to that, start on the porcelain and move it into the water. When used to that, squirt it into the water direct.
Once you have desensed to that, and you may have skipped stages if it felt right, you can drink so you need a pee, and repeat this exercise but peeing; again pee on the porcelain. Only when designed to that continue as above.
do you see that by taking it in small steps, you can control the level of anxiety you are learning to manage?
cheers
Andrew
5 years 2 months ago