Can't pee at urinals with other people around

Hi, as the title says I'm looking for advice.

So ever since around puberty I haven't been able to pee when other people are around, I can go into a stall and be fine but seeing people next to me while I'm peeing makes it so I just can't pee. I constantly try but it ends up with me pretending I'm peeing then having to just leave the bathroom so people don't judge me (anxiety of it I guess).

Is there anything I can do to help with it? I've never been able to pee next to people in a urinal and its nothing really bad its just a big inconvenience.

#373 by Matt

HI Matt

First of could you look a the thread "What can I do to progress", and let me know what you think.

The main thing is to wean yourself gently by starting in a large quiet toilet, preferably with dividers, so you can leave plenty of room between you and anyone else. Even then, start by "faking" which means doing everything but have a pee, so you can get used to the environment. Repeat the faking several times. Then when the surroundings feel OK, go for pee. allow yourself plenty of time to start a flow; it's not a race.

This means finding a toilet in a shopping mall at a quiet time, or a motorway services. Yes it means putting aside time to "train" yourself.

You say "so people don't judge me." That wont happen cos people are not interested in others peeing; to them peeing is off the scale for uneventful; akin to blowing their nose. So ignore them as they will ignore you. A friend tested this by faking for 20 minutes and gave up out of sheer boredom; no-one reacted at all.

Cheers

Andrew

#375 by andrew
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