Hi David.
Very glad you got in touch. You seem to have got yourself into a vicious circle, let’s see how we can break out of it. As the main trigger of anxiety is time pressure, what about testing if the time pressure actually exists. What you could do is, when you do NOT need a pee, go to the cubicle and stay there say two minutes. When you come out, see what reaction there is if any.
Anxiety is also triggered by worrying that someone will comment, and not wanting to admit to shy bladder being the reason. So in this situation arm yourself with a reply that sticks close to the truth but gives little away e.g. “Sometimes it seems to take me a long time to get started; don’t know why.” Say it in the same tone of voice you would use to say you were a bit constipated. Don’t evade, or justify, just shrug your shoulders. Having that reply ready may ease your anxiety a bit; especially if no-one comments.
If that test went OK, do it again, just to confirm it to yourself.
Once you realise you can allow yourself a suitable length of time, actually going for a pee should be easier. If someone comes in while you are there, wait them out; they can only pee for so long say 20-30 seconds. After they have left, that leaves you plenty of time to get started yourself.
About reducing fluid intake. After the above has shown you can allow yourself time, I suggest your return to drinking normally, but don’t try going when you get a twinge. Relax your body, especially your belly, take a couple of slow deep breaths. Wait until you have a strong but not uncomfortable urge. That should make to easier to start a flow.
Let me know what you think of this.
And BTW seriously think about getting onto a workshop; it is a safe place to get over these fears.
Andrew
5 years 8 months ago