Hello Pierre
I am sorry for the delay in replying to you
The main issue is that the toilet is too small for the urinal desensing you want to do. Ideally you need to find a large public toilet, that is quiet, and has dividers between the urinals. Your desensing plan would be to leave a gap between you and the other person. If there is someone there when you enter, go for maximum separation. If it is empty, you will find that the next person will not stand next to you, but instead l stand further away.
There are two components to work on: separation, and dividers. So you gradually reduce separation. Then look for a large quiet toilet without dividers, and start again with maximum separation.
Finally do not aim to be able to stand immediately next to someone, with no gap; most men like to leave a gap. If the toilet is busy and you cannot get a gap between you and another person, then use a cubicle. Many men do this.
A second point, when someone comes in, it is normal for the stream to slow down and even stop. The trick is to calm yourself down: deep slow breathing, and a positive thought about the stranger being “sympa”, and give yourself plenty of time to restart the stream.
Thirdly: on small toilets with only two urinals, it is common for one man to use a urinal and the other the cubicle.
I hope this help
Amicalement
Andrew
4 years 5 months ago