I forgot to add that one night I was going to try and use the commode.
A nurse was with me & was going to get something unrelated that I required (I forget what now).
I told her I was going to try and use the commode and asked her to give me ten minutes before she came back.
I was very frail from my treatment at the time so i didn’t get to the commode at the end of the bed as fast as I would have had I not been unwell.
I decided to try peeing sitting down for these reasons. A) I had a t-shirt on and I could pull that down to give myself a bit of privacy should anyone walk in, I thought that idea might help me relax more, C) the workshop tells us to try sitting to pee as it’s more relaxing.
I’d only just started to pull my pyjama bottoms slowly down when the same nurse walked in with the item she’d gone to get.
Luckily she didn’t see anything but I later reported her for ignoring my ten minute request.

Hi Tom, I can share experiences with you on this one.
I was in hospital once and had the curtain drawn around the bed whilst I decided to try and use a bottle. I sat the opposite side of the bed to where the curtain opened so that if anyone should just rudely walk in, I would at least have my back to them & they shouldn’t be able to see anything whilst I cover up.
Lucky I did so because a woman burst in and asked if she could do a survey about my stay in hospital!
I went into hospital again at a much later date & when admitted a nurse told me there were bottles for me to use and I told her I can’t use them, I can’t go if there are people around because I just can’t relax. She said ok.
Each time I needed the toilet I asked a nurse for assistance & they took me there on a wheelchair and brought me back until I was given a disability aid to help me walk to the toilet and back by myself.

When I couldn’t pee into the bottle I never mentioned AP I just said that I was struggling. Nobody asked why I couldn’t pee and if I had been asked I would have said that I struggle in stressful situations.
As regards any pain with the catheter, there wasn’t any.

AP has been the monkey on my back for many years and like many sufferers how I would cope in hospital has caused me concern.
Several weeks ago I had a serious accident, while decorating I fell off a ladder, and ended up in hospital flat on my back, no pillow, and ordered under no circumstances to get out of bed. I was given pee bottles but struggled to use them so told a nurse of the problem. A scan on my bladder was taken,a doctor sent for who then inserted a catheter. O the relief.
When the consultant came round I told him that I struggled to pee in the bottle and he said that so would he!

Hi Ricky

You say the worst case scenario is a catheter. It is actually not what you think. I have tried one and it slides in easily with no pain at all. After all, they are used so much that the designs have evolved appropriately.
Hope that lessens your concern.

Andrew

Being admitted to Hospital is my main worry, above everything else. I’ve had AP all my life, and let’s face it, the older you get the more likely the wheels will fall off and you may end up there. Lying in bed surrounded by others is I suppose the very worst situation for someone who has this affliction. But worrying won’t change anything, if you’re ill you’re ill. I think that the nurses and doctors should understand although it’s likely they’ve never heard of AP. but they’ll be familiar with milder cases of bashful bladder. A patient could ask for a bed bottle and keep it handy until things quieten down, say during the night. Worst case scenario is a catheter I suppose, so that is the ultimate sanction against AP. I just keep my ever ageing fingers heavily crossed!