Thank you, Dylan I very much appreciate it

Thanks Dylan, experience from the horse's mouth is priceless. Andrew

Hello Ben,

Yeah starting from the absolute bottom is essential. My first practice session was in a rather large toilet near a beach. The troff was far from the cubicles and i was successful using the cubicle. I would later goto shopping centres with large quiet toilets and I would urinate 1 cubicles away from another occupied cubicle. Then I would progress to larger busier toilets and still have a cubicle buffer. I would then try next to someone else in a cubicle with low walls then later high walls. But remember before progressing from each step make sure you've done it alot of times.

The idea is to record the size business difficulty of each toilet. Also if your in a mall pee for 3 seconds in one toilet then move to 4 more visiting the same ones if necessary. It is uncomfortable at first but you get used to it and stop caring. More people would give a clearer understanding but this is all I know from my experience.

Regards,
Dylan

Hey Dylan,
Thanks I've started faking it with people seeing my feet so hopefully, I get used to it. Is it possible for you to explain how you got started with gradual exposure, for example, what public toilet situations did you start out in like were they empty to begin with and then moved on to occupied and if so, how did you make the jump? Did you have a pee buddy that you used beforehand? Much appreciated, Ben

Hey mate, I had the same problem when I my paruresis was severe. The idea is to goto a cubicle and have someone see your feet don't intend on peeing just stand there and get used to a person seeing your feet after 8 or 9 times you won't care one bit like me. Keep up the good work.

Regards,

Dylan

Should I be able to pee easily in a cubicle if I get to a point where I can reliable pee with my pee buddy looking at me sideways on or does a pee buddy only take you so far and I'll need to do gradual exposure in cubicles with different layouts and busyness until I can pee in a cubicle? What I'm trying to find out is what can I expect to achieve realistically with a pee buddy when using a cubicle, is it just to bridge the gap between an empty bathroom and one that is not busy but occupied? What do people on the workshop achieve from a pee buddy? thanks