It took me about 8 years to tell my first wife and similar for my second wife and 20 years to tell my best friend but I trusted them all. The experience with all 3 was positive.
The common theme with all of them was that they didn't think it was a big deal and understood to varying extents.

Hiya David, I’ve also suffered from stage fright for 3 decades & more & only recently took up the Wim Hof Method to help me take control of my mind in stressful situations & one of the things they do (totally unrelated to shy bladder) is a breath hold technique & I discovered that I was going to pee myself & only about two days ago I thought, “I’ve found a way to hack my bladder” lol & was interested to see if anyone else had discovered it & im pleased it’s already recognised. I’m still experimenting lol if I hold on the out breath as opposed to the in breath I will get a faster response but it definitely works but yet to use it in proper stressful situations.

And so it all turned out very good. She was very understanding, and supportive.
Just before i shared my story she actually alse shared one with me, she suffers from panic attacks occasionally, so we have a lot in common to talk about and have lots of respect for eachothers situation.
Glad i talked about it.
Thanks for the support.
Jan

Good stuff Jan. Do let us know how to goes.
Andrew

Thank you David and Andrew for the advice and tips, they are very helpfull.
I may consider using different techniques in the future, first i will take a moment to tell my cycle friend. We both have a unique sense of humour and laugh a lot, so this will surely help once the serious part is over.
I tried to reply yesterday Andrew but i’m not sure it got thru. I just wanted to tell that there is mutual trust among us. Just the other day she said that the nice thing about us is that we always can be ourselves when we spend time together.
Thanks all

I have also ben suffering most of my life, and it came to a head this year when I stopped being able to pee on an aeroplane which has never been a problem before. I was distraught, but spent the first 5 days of my holiday reading up! I came across the reference to Breath Hold technique and being relatively fit, can hold my breath no problem.
It works!!
I used it on the plane come back, and then last week in a busy hotel urinals I took the plunge, and after a slow start, it worked again, and again, and again, and then became a lot easier.
It seems cramped cubicles on planes and trains pushed me into the worse stage after 30 years of using any cubicle no problem, but now, I suddenly feel confident again.
I am going to use the BH technique to give me the confidence to beat this.
Once your brain knows it can't stop you going for a pee, it will cease to cause problems! That's my approach which seems to be working.
I've told my family only recently, and even some close friends, and they are supportive.
Tell those close to you and they will understand, and it will help.
Good luck!!