Posted by Andrew on 2/3/2010, 1:21 pm, in reply to "Another sufferers expirience."
Good to hear from you, glad you felt able to get your story off your chest.
You say this condition feels emasculating. Remember that women get it as well, and so it cannot be emasculating as such can it. It is a gender-neutral anxiety.
You are not sure whether your life experiences have contributed to your paruresis, and hence low self-esteem. These things can be interlinked. However because paruresis has a major impact on everyday life, hour by hour, any improvement in one’s paruresis can have a corresponding positive effect on self-esteem, and hence on other behaviours.
You say you don’t understand the psychological basis; you are in good company: most people don’t. Go to our website www.ukpt.org.uk. The explanation is there, and lots more besides, such as advice on things you can do.
Use toilets for the disabled, that is what they are for. If anyone questions you, say you have bladder problems (or problems with me waterworks). No need to elaborate. Once you mention bladder problems, they will back off. Don’t be aggressive, be assertive.
Re workshops, email me (use the support email address at top of the page) and I’ll ensure you get notified of the next beginners workshop.
Re DDA: tricky this. It has been used in tribunals. However in a work place, no-one wants to ask for special facilities because they don’t want anyone to know they have paruresis.
You can beat this; you just need to be shown how to do it, or to read it about it.
Keep in touch
Andrew
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