Posted by Alex on 1/3/2010, 8:05 pm
I have suffered from this problem since I guess secondary school. The way I always to found to cope with it is to duck out of whereever I am and find a quiete place with no one around. I have gone through alot of pain with this condition, it makes for one dating next to impossible. No one wants a date that keeps ducking out. Last date I had I was so fearful about going to the toilet I just couldn't even hold a conversation and we ended up calling it off. Not to mention I had no idea where I stood with this girl. I've never been a good chat up artist, I'm usually to shy to approach new women. However I have dated lots of women because they pick me up. I havn't had what anyone can call a long term relationship, but havnt felt parauresis was the big problem there. I simply get bored easily. I want to get back on the horse so to speak and meet someone, but even confiding this is kind of emasculating. I'm at the age when I want a partner and to start settling down, but this is a social disability.
I've always enjoyed going to the pub, clubbing and going to festivals, but its always required me to find ways of ducking out which makes it rather inconveiniant.
Luckily my mates are fairly understanding and now about it and don't usually question when I disappear, it does make sticking around long enough to interact and not be constantly anxious about peeing to make some inroads.
When I was younger it seemed no problem finding girls, they would come to me. I good looking, used to be fairly at ease in public. I've always been quite loud and opinionated however I have suffered depression and anxiety, and am not sure if Im on the otherside. I guess I'm fairly psychologically damaged because I find it difficult love myself and consequently others. I guess my drunk mother has alot to do with it, also late diagnosed dyslexia which caused my grades to dive bomb at uni and self control issues that have always been an issue. I am not sure if the parauresis is a consequence of these problems causing low self esteem or it has contributed to my overall psychologically pathology. I do feel however that I would be able to live a normal life if I could pee when others were about.
I have no fear of inadequacy, I really don't care what others think, I know Im good looking and more than adequate in the trouser department. I sure don't like getting and eyeful of another guys penis, but I go to the gym and get changed with others without a problem. I simply don't understand the psychological basis.
I went to the doctor who sent me to the hospital, had a probe shoved up under anesthetic to see if there was a problem. Nothing.
What are peoples expiriences with medications like. The doctor prescribed some but I didnt take more than once as there were too many don'ts with them. Has anyone found any that work?
Is parauresis a disability and can we get radar keys for disabled convieniances because of it? I find disabled facilities really help me, if I can get into them that is.
If parauresis is a disability that under DDA legislation employers have the duty to make reasonable adjustments if practicable. If they made a quite restroom available for your use would that be reasonable for a chronic sufferer?
Thanks925
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