Posted by Ian B on 3/1/2010, 7:00 pm, in reply to "Don't know if I'm progressing or not...."
Blimey,It's been a while (2006?) since I posted anything on the board , I attended the 2nd EVER workshop in 2003 and have helped out on one too.
I learned SO much on the workshop and even NOW say a little thanks to Andrew every time in my head when I successfully use an aircraft toilet or urinal out and about! lol
The thing is , I just DON'T think about AP anymore , even when I have a misfire , I just dont' beat myself up about it , AND I CHOOSE to go when and where i feel comfortable , if a stall feels good , I go , if a urinal feels good I go there , without the voices in my head saying I 'ducked out ' yad yada ... AS LONG AS I PEED ...JOB DONE who cares ?!
I have have occasionally misfired in a crowded toilet , gone to wash my hands , composed myself and tried again successfully , did anyone notice ...er...NO ...did i CARE ...er NO ! AS LONG AS I PEED ! I just think of all the Times I have peed freely knowing in my inner thoughts that I know I can !
I KNOW it's very easy to just be telling you and others this and you thinking 'but what if I can't be like this ? '
You really HAVE to think glass half full ! , I thank EVERY day I attended the workshop , and for my good friend Andrew Smith for showing me that ( and here's the biggest lesson) It's what YOU think about AP not anyone else!
Stick at the de-sensing and RELAX, think of the progress you have made BUT , DO NOT keep dwelling on failures ,try NOT to obsess about it or worry , time will heal , you WILL succeed ! Remember all the lessons learned on the workshop!
ED, if you misfire a few times you are NOT back at square one my friend, try not to put too much pressure on yourself (been there done that) you said you've peed freely next to someone ...amazing , well done , hold that positive thought !
I've also found Hypnotic relaxation is great for positive vibes too , there are some great ones on the iphone/itunes for those geeks out there ! lol
Hope any of this helps mate
best
Ian B.
ps for those who are still plucking up courage to attend a workshop , don't worry and get there , the best move you will EVER make !
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