Do you remember when George on Seinfeld discovered that "doing the opposite" helped him be successful beyond his wildest dreams? Well, as it turned out he may have actually been onto something.
Marsha Linehan, PhD, an excellent clinician and researcher, has developed a cognitive-behavioural skill that would make Mr. Constanza proud. Much of her approach will sound familiar, but she puts it together in a way that can be quite helpful for those who want a skill for changing unwanted emotions. Research supports her theory.
James has discovered some of these principles on his own (see JustDoIt). Please don't be tempted to reduce this to a gimmick like "paradoxical intention." This is not about tricking yourself into anything or playing some unsustainable mind-game.
I'll review some of the principles of Opposite Action:
Emotion | Action | |
---|---|---|
Fear | Run (avoid) | |
Anger | Attack | |
Sadness | Withdraw | |
Shame | Hide |
Emotion Opposite Action
Emotion | Action | |
---|---|---|
Fear | Stay (or approach) | |
Anger | Gently Withdraw | |
Sadness | Engage, get active | |
Shame | Approach (or reveal) |
For more information, Dr. Linehan has a very good videotape on the subject. See the website www.behavioraltech.com