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  • Paul

The 2nd person I have told. Enormous sense of relief. Tell someone close. Then discuss in detail. It will help.

  • Paul

This morning, after a lot of thought, I decided to tell my wife. We've been married 25 years. She is only the

  • andrew

Hi Ian

Would you like to elaborate? i.e. tell your story? We might be able to help.



  • Ian

It's reassuring to know I'm not the only one.

  • Ollie

I suffer exactly the same problem mate, I’m not a shy person at all these days but I am still pee shy, it just seems so personal to me, I can’t understand how so many guys are scared shitless of letting another guy see their dick in a changing room etc - this doesn’t bother me at all - but have no problem peeing surrounded by other guys.
I think the fear for me is probably two fold, firstly that I might not be seen as manly enough if I can’t just flop it out and pee in front of the lads and secondly that guys might think I’m in the toilets cruising for sex if I’m just standing at the urinal with nothing coming out....l both of which make the problem worse of course.
As you say, it doesn’t ruin your whole life but it can be really embarrassing standing waiting for a cubicle for ages when there’s urinals free, trying to go failing, bursting with a full bladder and having to pop into the bog every 15 minutes for another try and desperately trying to avoid going to the big at the same time as any mates particularly.
Wonder if I should try and find a shy pee buddy to try and overcome it with, lol!

  • andrew

HI Matt

First of could you look a the thread "What can I do to progress", and let me know what you think.

The main thing is to wean yourself gently by starting in a large quiet toilet, preferably with dividers, so you can leave plenty of room between you and anyone else. Even then, start by "faking" which means doing everything but have a pee, so you can get used to the environment. Repeat the faking several times. Then when the surroundings feel OK, go for pee. allow yourself plenty of time to start a flow; it's not a race.

This means finding a toilet in a shopping mall at a quiet time, or a motorway services. Yes it means putting aside time to "train" yourself.

You say "so people don't judge me." That wont happen cos people are not interested in others peeing; to them peeing is off the scale for uneventful; akin to blowing their nose. So ignore them as they will ignore you. A friend tested this by faking for 20 minutes and gave up out of sheer boredom; no-one reacted at all.



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