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I have had this problem since being in my early 20s. I couldn't urinate in urinals but could in cubicles.
It started to get worse a few years ago where I couldnt urinate with people around at certain times.
A year ago I had a complete shutdown for a few days. I couldnt relax enough to be able to urinate without pushing really hard sitting down. After a few days, I managed to find the confidence to get things moving again and have been fine until last week when the same thing happened again.
I have not been able to go naturally for a couple of days now, however I am starting to pass urine without as much pushing as a couple of days ago. I hope I get over it again shortly and everything will return to normal.
I have been to the doctor today who has given me Diazepam which I am really not sure about taking. I went to the doctor a year ago as well and he gave me Stronazon MR Capsules which I didnt take because I managed to return to normal without any use of drugs.
I read on a website that Bethanecol Chloride was used to treat Bashful Bladder Syndrome.
Has anyone used any of the drugs above or any alternative drugs that have worked for them?
I would appreciate hearing from anyone who can offer support.
Many Thanks Paul
Re: Help needed!
Posted by Tim on 22/5/2010, 11:30 am, in reply to "Help needed!"
Hi Paul
Thanks for getting in touch - it`s good you feel able to share on the board.
Although I`m not at all medically qualified, I feel you`ve come to the right place. I`ve not personally used any drugs to treat shybladder as I view it as a psychological problem. This is not to say that in your case, there may be a physical problem aswell, that only your doctor can diagnose.
I strongly urge you to start considering coming to a workshop, as there seems to be a psychological component present with you. You can read more about the workshops on the main site ukpt.org which I hope you`re aware of, but I mention just in case your not. They are a slightly scary prospect at first, but you`ll be in good company and it will be the best thing you ever did to lower your anxiety levels.
Sorry I can`t answer your specific concerns on the medications, but other other people may have relevant experiences. I`m glad you`ve found us - stay in touch and feel free to post again.
best wishes Tim
Re: Help needed!
Posted by Andrew on 22/5/2010, 12:29 pm, in reply to "Help needed!"
Hi Paul
Glad you have found us, and I hope the fact this site exists will help you feel part of a group.
We are careful not to recommend any drug for obvious reasons; but if any individual has personal experience, then that is OK. My only experience is with valium, a long time ago; it did nothing for me.
Diazepam is an anti-anxiety drug, also known as valium. It wont do you any harm, but my personal feeling is that prescribing it is a cop out.
I recommend you go to your GP and ask to be shown how to self-catheterise. It would mean that if you lock up, you can at least go in a cubicle and drain off. Knowing you can do that would relieve your anxiety a lot, and may even enable you to go with recourse to the catheter.
If your GP is reluctant, or refuses, just ask him what you are meant to do when you lock up. Because there is no answer to that, it should force him or her to agree to your request.
Once you have got confidence in using these disposable catheters, you can then think about moving on and dealing with the condition.
cheers
Andrewrayour
Re: Help needed!
Posted by Paul on 22/5/2010, 5:46 pm, in reply to "Re: Help needed!"
Hi Tim/Andrew,
Thanks very much for your responses. I have had a difficult day and I am struggling to Pee even in my own home.
I will keep trying to beat this thing and may try your workshops in the future.
Thanks Again, Paul
Re: Help needed!
Posted by Mark L on 23/5/2010, 10:44 pm, in reply to "Re: Help needed!"
Hi Paul,
So sorry to hear about your re-occuring trouble. Please keep updating us with any progress or thoughts/feelings you have. A workshop is not something you should consider, its something you should just do full stop. Once you have been on one, you will wish you had done one before.
As for using disposable catheters... These are a great way to get you out of tricky situations and as Andrew sais; knowing you have one in your pocket as a fail safe relieves alot of stress.
I went down that route last year and documented the whole thing:
I must add that I have used them since with out trouble. I have taken 3 out at once (in 1 pocket!) and apart from a SLIGHT discomfort, no problems atall!
As im not 100% sure wether or not you have any physical problems, I apologise if any of the above sounds patronising in anyway, its just the best advice I can give for someone who 'just' has AP.
All the best,
Mark
Re: Help needed!
Posted by Simon on 28/5/2010, 9:12 pm, in reply to "Re: Help needed!"
Hi Paul,
This is my first time on the site - so sorry to hear about the severity of your condition. Although I have had the condition for many years it has never reached the levels you describe.
I myself am a doctor - a psychiatrist to be exact. I agree with Mark that ruling out a physical cause is improtant (if this has not already been done). I would suggest that you then ask your GP to refer you for "talking therapy" (e.g. CBT / anxiety management etc). I have not been on a workshop but it sounds like you should consider that too. Diazepam is an anti-anxiety drug. If taken regularly it becomes addictive. It is not a solution to anxiety problems but may help as a one off (especially if the anxiety is stopping you passing urine even at home). I would not recommend it regularly or in the long term. All the best, Simon