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Just a quick update on day two and day three for me - news was not much chance to pee! (in company anyway) I've been at quite a few public toilets but keep going in when nobody else is there. Oh well. I'm trying to take my time and generally take in the toilets and take a few deep breaths after - I'm hoping to reprogram the part of my brain that always seems to go into 'flight or fight' mode when it sees open urinals and see the place through more normal eyes. I haven't been quite at the stage when I'd actually wait for someone and walk in after them but I'm working towards that. I figure if I can get some 'overlapping' time stood at the bowl even if I'm not actually going, then that should help to begin normalizing the whole thing again. Obviously the problem with this is if (or generally when!) the next person comes in to replace them! I've got a bit of a plan for this which is to have my mobile in my pocket and press a button which will make the message alert go off - that should give me a bit of an excuse to pull up and check things out for a minute then hopefully get back to business. Know this probably sounds really sad but I reckon forewarned is forearmed with this! Good luck to everyone over the next couple of days - keep peeing! Pee S Still reading the Mckenna book (see earlier post) - I think it's helping but I'll keep you all posted obviously.
Re: Day Three
Posted by Mark on 17/2/2009, 7:49 pm, in reply to "Day Three"
Hi mate,
Well one for trying and not giving up! Geoff P had a similar problem, as have I... Where you walk in to a WC and no body is in there! 2 things yuo can do... 1. Keep repeating the process, EVENTUALLY you will be in full flow when someone else walks in. or 2. as you touched upon, walk in after someone. Give this person enough time to urinate so you walk in as they are approaching the sinks. This way, you know they will be out of your way soon enough.
As for your phone, good idea. Anything that can give you an 'excuse' to take longer is fine. I pretent I am texting on my phone sometimes, as it feels like it doesnt matter that I am not going. OK this isnt technically the right attidude as it doesnt matter how long it takes, but it just helps put you at ease so its ok
By the way, incase you dont already, when you have suceeded and are in flow, stop it, then go away and try again. This will give you lots more attempts in a short space of time, thus speeding up the desencing process. And when you let it all out at the end, soon enough someone WILL come in!
Well done and good luck!
Mark
Re: Day Three
Posted by Andrew on 17/2/2009, 9:52 pm, in reply to "Day Three"
Hi Adam
Two things
1. It is common to find that the toilets are empty; this comes as a great surprise to guys who up till then have been avoiding them! But it does go to show that if you have a misfire, you can always walk out, and pop back in a bit later.
2. you need to get used to standing at a urinal doing nothing, and not being bothered by it. We recommend "faking it" i.e. when you do not need a pee, go in and stand there for 30 - 60 secs. The first time feels really odd; but by the sixth time you will be bored, which is good. This is a good technique to
a) enable you to handle a long hesitation time i.e. the time between ready to start peeing, and the flow starting and
b) to get used to a challenging situation, before starting graduated exposure there.